Guest: Kaihla Tonai
Kaihla is an intimate wedding and elopement photographer who lives in Calgary, Alberta, Canada. She recently wanted to take her photography a step further which brought her to collaborate with a holistic nutritionist and together create the Free Spirit Collective. Women's empowerment retreats that foster sisterhood and self love. Their retreats give you the space to be seen no matter where you are on your journey. They celebrate you as you are and join women together in sisterhood.
Kaihla's own experiences as an introvert helped to build clarity around her business, her goals and what she brings to her clients through all aspects of her work.
You know what I have most trouble with? Freaking naming these podcasts because we talk about so much...how can I sum it up in one line?
When I first asked Kaihla to be on she admitted that as an introvert she was a tad nervous. I get it. Me too. The same reason she does her photography and hosts Free Spirit retreats is why I embarked on this podcast though. To create a safe space to show up, be seen, be appreciated and be heard. We've both experienced feeling ourselves shrivel up, not being able to be fully ourselves out of fear of judgement. Of going into a crowded room and wanting to tuck away in a corner. BUT we've also both felt the amazing feeling of deep connection and how from their we open up and show up.
We also talk about how creating really crisp clarity in our business actually brings abundance and not the scarcity we fear in niching. It was her clarity of message that brought me to her. The focus on nature and on sisterhood. In a world where women are often enemies, frenemies or simply make more friends with guys we talk about how important it is to have female connection.
I was so excited she agreed to be slightly uncomfortable with me and record. Afterward she said it felt easy. Yay! That's what I truly want for my guests.
Here are some highlights from the show:
- Free Spirit Session: space to be seen, come as you are and show truest version of yourself.
- How to find ease in front of a camera
- Finding your specialty and benefits of finding your niche
- Collaborating in business
- Battling the fear of failure
- Creating boundaries in a soulful business based around service to others
- Building friendships with other women and sisterhood
- Importance of self care
- Being picked on as an adult and introvert, weeding out unsupportive relationships
- Growing from our struggle
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