Her work is absolutely amazing. If you aren't familiar with her she is a shame researcher and an author of several life changing books that I highly recommend.
In her research of interviewing thousands of woman about shame and their experiences with it she found that 90% of women were ashamed of their body.
May I repeat, 90%!!! That is 9 out of every 10 women.
Because of this jaw dropping statistic Brown says that body image is the closest issue to a 'universal' shame trigger.
I guess it's not completely shocking to me when I reflect on all the women I know (including myself) and how we speak about/treat our bodies. When I think about the media we are fed constantly.
It is absolutely tragic though. TRAGIC!
I am hopeful that this is shifting as a body positive movement has begun to develop. This has to change.
In order to create lasting change it's not enough to simply agree with the body positive movement, give the ladies a mental high five and perhaps share a video on our Facebook. That is the first step, but for true and lasting change to happen it must not end there. In order for this to not be a fad, but an actual revolution we have some responsibility to act.
WE ARE THE CHANGE!
How we talk to ourselves, how we treat our body, how we speak about our body, how we move, eat and interact matter. You matter.
Change won't happen overnight and it won't happen by simply agreeing but not taking any action ourselves.
The catch is, it isn't easy. Confronting our shame, sharing our shame with others and changing our habits are all very difficult. We must continually remind ourselves of the importance of this change though because it is so easy to get sucked back in.
Progress not perfection.
Do we want the next generation growing up with the feeling of not being enough? Hating what they see in the mirror? Do we want to live out the rest of our own lives feeling this way?
That's not what I want.
When we blame and hate our bodies for not living up to living up to some (unrealistic) expectations we move farther and farther away from wholeness and our authentic selves.
Most of us have experienced this. You've most likely read some of my own experiences with body shame, here on the blog.
If you have ever felt shame about your body you are not alone. Remember 9 out of 10 women have felt it. We aren't born this way though, it's learned and it's time for us to break free.
We are not our bodies, we are so much more. Hating our bodies does not create happiness or health. When we love our body we will treat it that way and it will thrive over time.
Shame is known to grow when hidden and left alone. The catch is that fear of judgement keeps it hidden, but there it will only continue to grow. As my wonderful fiance says, we've got to 'share the burden.' Finding a supporting community is so helpful.
Thank you for being part of my community.
I see you, I feel you and I accept you. As you are because we each are flawed, but beautiful. I also accept me. My body doesn't make me kind, compassionate, loving, curious or any other qualities that I am at my core. Those are me and my body simply allows me to experience and interact with the world. For that I am grateful.