Ever heard the saying "What doesn't kill you only makes you stronger?"
We briefly talked about this concept in a previous post.
(check it out here
) How breaking down muscles, is actually what makes them grow and become stronger.
This concept is applicable to life's emotional battles as well, not just physical ones.
Through challenge, turmoil and facing fear we gain our strength and resilience of character. We gain wisdom.
In the same way that we must let our bodies rest in order to build muscle, we must allow ourselves to recover from an emotional, stressful, traumatic or otherwise strenuous events.
When we don’t give ourselves the opportunity to heal from a challenge or trauma we are more likely to remain broken.
Although the hardest things in life, like the heaviest weights, can create the most strength it can only do so if we take care of ourselves after that event. We must deal with our emotions, let them out, discover ways to cope, to let go, to move on, to create a new mindset.
When we shove our hurt away and keep trudging forward we only make the injury deeper.
Instead of getting stronger, your emotional strength, general wellbeing, happiness muscle and ability to cope will become weaker. The same way that our muscles will catabolize themselves. You will break yourself down.
Healing from emotional hardship can be even more challenging than a physical one, which is why recovery is so important.
Here are a few ideas to jumpstart your recovery. You can start with one, see how it feels. If it isn't working for you try the next one. For an extra boost of healing utilize more than one each day.
Yes it can sound daunting, but truly it doesn't have to be. The more you feel resistance, the more you probably need it. (that's the worst thing to hear isn't it? I know, I hate when people tell me that.)
Here are some simple steps to get started:
- Find a quiet space to be alone, either sit comfortably or lie down
- Start to notice your breath. What that means is pay attention to the sound it makes, the feeling it creates in you, what it sounds like, if it has a texture, where does it end in your body. Don't over think it, just notice.
- After simply noticing your breath for a few minutes send breath all the way to your belly, then exhale slowly for count 4.
- Do this for 10 minutes. Set a timer so you aren't stressed about it.
Simple! Maybe your mind is saying that can't be helpful, but it's proven to reduce stress and help relax us. Unfortunately it isn't always an instant gratification sort of help, so give it some time.
Well of course I was going to suggest this! You had to know that :)
If you don't already have a practice don't worry. You can go to a class if you like the idea of being with other people, or having an instructor.
The other option is to practice at home. Give yourself at least 10 minutes, but don't limit yourself either. Flow as long as you can or need.
Doesn't have to be complicated, and remember to just allow whatever emotions come up flow out! Often times it's through movement that we can truly let things loose, and let go.
Use 10 minutes a day to free write in a journal.
As humans we tend to build things up in our head. Things become bigger and bigger until they overtake us. We create judgements, and often even hurt ourselves more.
Get it out there. Put what's in your head on paper. It starts to have less power. Trust me. I have a tendency to let my head get the best of me, but getting those thoughts and feeling out immediately allows some of the weight to be taken off.
You can then reflect back on it from a place of an observer and think a bit more clearly.
Don't make rules about it, it doesn't even have to be sentences.
Talk It Out
This can be by a professional like a therapist, counselor or life coach, or just be friend you trust. (If it's a friend just be sure to tell them they don't need to give you any answers you just need to talk) The goal here is to be heard, with no judgment, no opinions.
It's a wonderful feeling to be fully heard. To have someone listen compassionately.
Happy or sad. Let the emotion run through you. Let go, release and be free.
It's okay, it's normal. You are not less, you are human.
You probably don't want to cry anywhere and everywhere, but allow yourself time each day to release your emotions (schedule it if necessary). This could be a part of your meditation, journaling, yoga, or talking...or it can be it's own separate thing.
No matter what just allow yourself to release.
The heaviest things can break us or make us stronger in all aspects of life. What will you choose?
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