But you are stressed, overwhelmed, and at your wits end because there's only one you and there's so much to do. (woah I think I just channelled Dr. Seuss)
I'm going to let you in on a couple huge secrets. Life changing stuff. The solution to that feeling of not knowing how you can do it all.
People want to help.
It makes us feel needed. Important.
I'm always shocked at how when I finally get the courage to open up people are there. I try so hard to do everything on my own, gotta be 'miss independent,' but when I give in and just ask, someone is always eager and willing to help.
Think of the roles being reversed. If you were able to help someone out would you? Personally I love to be able offer a lending hand. It truly makes me feel good. I enjoy it. If I have the ability to make someone else's load a little lighter in some way I will.
Don't be afraid. Allow others do what they can, allow them to be of service. They won't offer, or say yes, if they truly do not want to do something. Oh and if they do, it's not your problem. You didn't torture them until they complied to your wishes, or guilt them into doing anything. (at least I hope not!)
You aren't supposed to do it all by yourself.
Asking for help doesn't make you less, or unworthy. It doesn't make you a bad employee, friend, wife, girlfriend, sister, mother, entrepreneur. It makes you a normal human.
I notice myself and those around me trying to do everything. I have friends that feel guilt about hiring a cleaner to come every once in a while because, aren't they supposed to do that? If you want to, if you enjoy it, if you have time. Otherwise allow someone else to help out, and also have a freaking job because really you are helping the other person out too.
For centuries people lived in tribes, small communities, large family units and they all helped one another. Each person has a gift, something to offer that you may not possess.
Trying to do it all only depletes our energy, makes us stressed and anxious, and disconnects us from other people. When we are stuck trying to do it all we have no time for anything else. No time for fun or relaxation. No energy to enjoy what we do have.
If you are still making excuses or doubting all of this, then I have one more nugget for you.
Expecting yourself to do everything on your own is bad for your health.
That's right. You are literally sabotaging your own health by trying to be super human. How could that be possible? I mentioned it already but it's that little thing called STRESS. It's the root cause of all of our ailments, our suffering, our sickness and unhappiness.
The stress you endure by doing everything on your own will take it's toll on your health. All of a sudden your sleep is affected, your nutrition is faltering, you eat like a speed racer, exercise goes out the window, fun...who has time for fun? You'll be running around like a chicken with it's head cut off and then all of a sudden 'plop!' You'll collapse. The recovery from that won't be easy so start now.
Start reaching out. Ask for help. It's okay, you have permission to not be a superhero. You have permission to have emotions, limited time and limited abilities.
"Sometimes our first and greatest dare is asking for support" -Brene Brown; Daring Greatly
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